Entering parenthood I became aware of how quietly unsupportive we can be of each others opinions in raising our children. Unsure of how rooted we feel in our newly expanded morals we end up continuously comparing ourselves.
Such a challenging part of becoming a parent is this eire feeling that you are constantly being judged for your choices, while at the same time trying not to judge other parents for theirs. This is an incredibly challenging and humbling practice to 1) not fear that someone else's volition is better than your own and 2) not believe that your volition is superior than someone else's. Us parents have a lot to say around hot topic and controversial issues in my world like bed sharing or bottle feeding or the biggest one of all... vaccinations. These issues can be as sensitive as political or religious views. So why do we feel so confident in voicing our beliefs? There is no absolute right answer. It’s enough for me to know where I stand, and why, on any choice that I make in my life or my family's. I can exercise mindfulness in this way.
Judgement feeds our Ego’s, and it starts small. What seemingly insignificant daily decisions that impact personal wellbeing, environment and family will most definitely vary from one person to another. Would it be worthwhile to invest energy contemplating why someone’s choices are different from mine? Taking ownership over what we put into our bodies, when we put ourselves to bed, who we spend our time with, or how we work in a way that is measured sustainable compares to no one else’s ability but our own to output consciously. If we choose the “quick” or the “easy” way, we remove presence from our lives.
Turning once more to my yoga practice, it has given me so many ways to look inwards for volition and curb the cycle of disappointment, judgement and blame towards others. I let go of the idea to control the external and move towards acceptance for the strength and power we each have in creating our own circumstance.